Handling manipulative people is never easy. And doubly so, when they are at work. But, you simply can't avoid running across a few of them in the course of your career. These entitled darlings somehow get along without doing any work, never accepting their mistakes, and remorselessly dumping all responsibilties on you. Miraculously, everyone except you thinks that they are simply adorable. So, how do you deal with a manipulative coworker?
Trust your Instincts
As good-natured people, we all try to give others the benefit of doubt. This is exactly what the the manipulator exploits. People may go off track ocassionally; but, if you do find a pattern, listen to your instincts. Do not allow the manipulator to continue exercising his/her influence on you.
Be Upfront
Many a time, people do not know that they are acting badly. Just informing them upfront will help them reform their character. Do not go for a confrontation. Rather simply lay down the facts clearly and calmly. The manipulator will likely stay off your path now.
Don't get pulled into Games
Manipulators love to play games, because they know they have the upper hand. They might be able to draw in support from your manager or your coworkers. They will jump at any opportunity to put on a show and elicit sympathy. So, just do your job, and avoid getting drawn into games.
Limit Contact
Try to stay as far as possible from a person whom you think is manipulative. Just stick to your job, and do it the best you can. In case you have to communicate with the manipulator regularly, make sure you spell out everything clearly, and preferably in writing.
Document Everything
Make sure you document all communication you have with the manipulator. Keep a record of all your interactions. In case you work together on a joint-project, keep distinct copies of your part of work. It is easier to present facts, when your words and actions are twisted out of context.
Find Support
Do not hang around cribbing about the manipulator to your fellow office-mates. It leaves you equally at fault. Instead, contact your manager or the HR department, and present them with the facts. Getting timely support will keep the situation from blowing out of proportion.